FAQs

I decided to start this divorce greeting card line because of all the incredible messages of support I got from friends who knew exactly what I was going through. And I bonded with people who had been through it or been close to it. There’s a lot of wisdom that comes at the end of the process that is useful to people at the start or middle. 

Why divorce greeting cards?

Divorce greeting cards exist because divorce is life changing and people need real, specific support instead of silence or clichés.

This is an incredibly chaotic time. Even the simplest, most amicable divorce will be life changing. And while you can send a text, there’s something about getting a physical card that hits different. If someone you care about is getting divorced, they’re feeling about every emotion known to humanity, and maybe some brand new ones. Some may be worried about what you think. Some may be expecting you to take sides or may have already ghosted.

Why not just get a simple “tough times will pass” or "thinking of you” card from the grocery store?

You can, but a specific card makes a much bigger impact and shows that you truly see what your friend is going through.

As a professional copywriter and published fiction author, I know the power of being specific. You can send a generic message or you can cut straight to the heart of the matter. Also, the humorous cards apply to some of the more serious scenarios. Laughing is really important for mental health. These cards tell people, “You’re not overreacting. You’re not crazy. Your happiness and well-being matters, too.”

The thing about getting divorced is our society still puts a stigma on it and that makes it taboo. No one judges your grief if someone dies. But for some reason people hear the word “divorce” and what they hear is, “Please give me any thought you have whether it’s kind, smart, or informed.” People need explicit support.

How well do I need to know someone before sending them a card like this?

If you know they’re getting divorced, you know them well enough to brighten their day.

Consider their affect when they broke the news. Did they seem matter of fact or like they were in shock? If you don’t know the circumstances, any of the cards from the optimistic line is a safe bet.

This seems like kind of a touchy area.

That’s exactly why divorce cards exist, because silence makes the experience lonelier.

Divorce is a unique experience and always comes with some type of headache or heartache. Don’t settle for a generic card that offers platitudes about sunshine and rainbows. Making someone feel truly seen is one of life’s most beautiful experiences. And it’s uncomfortable. And uncomfortable life experiences tend to make friends scatter, not because they don’t care, but because they simply don’t know what to say. That makes a lonely experience even lonelier.

Are you sure it’s not rude to send a divorce card?

No, it is not rude to send a divorce card if your goal is to show care and support.

Many people actually appreciate the acknowledgement. Ignoring the event can feel lonelier than receiving a card. The key is to choose a card that matches their tone, whether humorous, optimistic, or tender.

What if I’m friends with both people getting divorced from each other?

You can send cards to both, just set boundaries so you do not get caught in the middle.

That sounds like a great place to be, assuming you don’t need this card, this card, this card…let’s just say if about a third of the catalog is too dark (but funny) then go ahead and buy both people cards. Both people probably want reassurance from you that you’re still a friend. You may need to set some clear boundaries about how much venting you’re willing to take from them, because then you may end up sending each of them this card and the two will either cancel each other out or get awkward fast.

I don’t know if my friend wants me to be celebrating her divorce.

Not all cards celebrate divorce, some offer comfort, pride, or tender support.

It's totally valid to consider the tone of the card you pick. These divorce greeting cards have a wide array of messages. They don’t all celebrate divorce because people may feel like their life is over (even though it isn’t). Some people feel proud for ending abuse, putting themselves first, or accepting that something couldn’t be fixed. They deserve to step into their new chapter holding their head high and taking all their hard fought wisdom with them. Other people may be still be eating a plate of garlic bread for dinner every once in awhile and they likely need a more tender message of support.

My friend is deeply religious.

Support matters even more, since faith and culture can add extra layers of shame or judgment.

No matter what their religion states, life went a different direction. Not everyone gets to choose divorce, some have it thrust upon them and their faith or cultural background means they experience more shame, judgment, or fear. Be the person who cares how it’s going.

I care about my friend but I think our divorce rates are too high.

Divorce is often harder than staying together, and today’s freedom means people can leave harmful or limiting marriages.

You’re not wrong to question things at a societal level. Something seems broken. But take a step back and consider how it looks from the point of view of the person that inspired you to click on this site. No one gets married expecting it to fall apart. Contrary to what many people think, it’s often harder to get divorced than to stay together. And more expensive. And more uncertain. When I got divorced I lost the ability to see my child every single day. It wasn’t at all what I wanted. It was what I needed.

We also have to remember that divorce rates are higher in modern times, because there is a lot more freedom. As recently as the 1970s, married women needed their husband’s permission to get a credit card, loan, or mortgage. If the man was unkind or controlling, guess how that would play out.

Are divorce cards appropriate for men?

Yes, men also appreciate support during divorce.

Divorce affects everyone, and men often get fewer supportive messages than women. A well-chosen card can show that you care about his well-being and future.

What do you write in a divorce card?

Write something supportive and specific, like “I’m here for you” or “You deserve happiness.”

Avoid clichés or advice about counseling. Keep it simple, honest, and focused on the person’s strength. If you don’t know what to say, the card itself carries the message, and a single line of support is enough. Signing your name is powerful enough. 

Are divorce greeting cards a new thing?

Divorce cards are newer compared to traditional greeting cards but are growing because people need them.

Divorce has always been a life-changing event, yet until recently, there were very few cards that acknowledged it. Now, people want cards that are honest, specific, and supportive instead of silence or generic sympathy.

I’m not sure the decision is final. They may choose to get back together.

Support them as they go through it, even if reconciliation is possible.

You may be right or you may not be hearing someone you care about. What exactly was said to you? If the words used were, “We’re getting divorced,” and not, “I’m thinking of getting divorced but may not,” go ahead and be a supportive friend during the divorce. Sometimes the people closest to us have a hard time accepting hard things for us. But the people we love need us on their side, not steeped in denial. Worst case scenario, you send a card and it helps your friend through a hard time. It will not stop them from reconciling if that indeed is in their future. Whatever you do, don’t ask if they tried counseling.

Are the cards only for getting divorced?

No, many cards work for other tough situations too.

While I designed these cards with divorce in mind, many do not overtly reference divorce. They focus on the wide range of experiences and feelings people go through. That makes them just as fitting for other difficult scenarios like toxic workplaces, family struggles, breakups, or any moment where someone needs to feel seen and supported. Anyone facing a difficult day in the courts system could use this one. 

Can I send more than a card?

Yes, you can pair a divorce card with thoughtful gifts or care packages.

We offer extras like a candle and a “happily divorced” travel mug that make perfect companions to a card. You can also put together your own care package based on what your friend needs most — comfort, laughter, or both.

How big are the cards?

All cards are 5 x 7 inches and include a fitted envelope.

This classic greeting card size makes them easy to display or save. They can be mailed with a standard postal stamp, so you don’t need special postage. Each card is printed on high-quality stock designed to feel substantial in the hand.