Why Divorce Cards Matter

If someone's getting divorced, it can be hard to know exactly what to say. Even when you're 100 percent in their corner. And while you're debating how often to check in, she has friends who making excuses to push off plans or outright ghosting. 

Divorce makes people uncomfortable, even more than death, I think. People can relate to funerals because everyone knows someone who died, and the emotions are much more predictable.

I'm honestly proud of my divorce. If there was a certificate I'd frame it and put it in my office. If companies were cooler I could talk about it at job interviews. It shows I'm smart. Intuitive. Can follow a to-do list. Research. Engage in information warfare. 

That doesn't mean it wasn't hard.  I wouldn't have made it without the support and encouragement of my friends and family. 

It seems like we're almost programmed to root for the marriage. Have you ever seen a Hallmark movie where the divorce was the happy ending? But for some of us, it's the most optimistic, healthy path forward. And for people left blindsided and devastated, tangible proof of your friendship he can hold in his hands and keep in a drawer will mean more than you know. 

That's why divorce greeting cards are necessary. Most people want to be supportive, but they don't know what to say. Especially if you knew your friends as a couple and now you're staring at this half a couple while they transform into one whole person before your eyes. 

There should be a card that says, "Good luck in court." Or simply, "You couldn't have known."

When you give someone a message that speaks to exactly what they're going through, you do more than show that you're thinking of them, you show them that you've heard how they feel about it and you're here for the next exciting chapter. That you trust them to build their most beautiful life. You show them that if they're happy, you want to be happy with them. If they're full of rage, you're there, too. You validate them. 

If someone you care about is getting divorced, or going through another hard time, these are messages they need to hear from you.